Making a shift of mind from resisting a change to embracing it is a challenging but very rewarding process. The first step is identifying that resistance is taking place in your life. This is a very personal experience that may have very different faces: apathy, fear, compliance, stress, confusion, inaction, embarrassment or disorientation. The common denominator in all these masks of resistance is that they keep you in a state of constantly contemplating about the past that is not coming back.
Once you become aware that you are resisting a change try to understand where it comes from. You might believe that you are extremely satisfied with your life without the change or that you fear the unknown future. You might be angry because it is not your decision, but the change was forced to you. Or you may feel that you will not be able to adapt. Whatever your intrinsic feelings and emotions are bring them to the surface. Face these underlying beliefs and allow yourself some time to reflect on them.
Work with your triggers for resisting change. Transform them into statements. Think if you are making any assumptions when resisting the change. How logical are your statements? How realistic are they? What evidence do you have that supports your statements and beliefs? In what ways they support you to move forward with your life when you are dealing with change? In what ways they present as roadblocks?
Think of another change experiences in your life when you were again in change resisting mindset. How did you deal with it? What support you needed to move consciously in those new stages of your life? Identify all the conditions, support and resources that have helped you to overcome the initial discomfort of change. Don’t wait and sum them all immediately to address your resistance in an early stage.
Once you become aware of the reasons for your resistance and your own strategies to deal with it, you will immediately experience relaxation and empowerment. You will be able to let go of the old roles, patterns and experience, and you will start looking into the future. You will gain back you self-confidence and you will check in your individual development plan to reflect on where you are and what options you have in this new situation to move to the next level of your growth as an individual and professional. At the moment you consciously close the door of the ending you are experience, you will find myriad doors in front to explore. Empowered by your own capacity and commitment to self, you will enter the new stage of your life stronger and more energized.
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